I was talking with my boyfriend lastnight about the book that I'm reading and I was telling him how I had three parents and none of them gave me my Basic Human Needs. Love, Valadation, Mastery, Uncondititional Acceptance, ect.. if you read the book you know what I'm talking about.

there has only been one person in my life that has even tried, & she was my big sister, (Big Brother/Big Sister Program) and I was 16 yrs. old. I was completely damanaged by then, but she gave me hope and acceptance. And I did not realize that til yesterday. She was a godsend. If it wasn't for her strenght and inner beauty that I fed off of, I would not be here today.

While I was talking with my boyfriend, I was telling him how I was never allowed to do anything, or go anywhere and how my sister was, my stepmother would always say that I would embarress my sister if I went to the school dance or a sleep over, or the mall.

He pointed out to me that, my stepmother kept me isolated,becasue they didn't want me to talk and let someone discover the family secret. And do you know what thats a hard pill to swallow, that is not something I want to accept. I was tought to believe that i was an embarressment, I was taught to be ashamed of who I am. And I wonder why I can't function in life. It's not right and it's not fair. why me?

WHY WOULD SOMEONE DO THIS TO A CHILD WHY!!!  

Hi Debra, thanks for your message. There is so much I could share with you, it would take years actually for I am 62 years old. But I do remember as a child we, the family were told to keep whatever happens in the family, stays within the family. Jeanette my twin and myself at different times did approach our family doctor who went and saw our father who denied it all face to face with him. I did share with a friend, she was told to stay away from us for a while, which she did. I know I still need to deal with some issues, but I am in no condition to force things, and GOD knows this where I am concerned. I am truly glad you aren't entirely alone, that you have a boyfriend to encourage you, it is best not to be alone because it can weigh upon one.
Jennifer. ;):)